When You’re the Adult in the Room
Adding to Your Classroom Confidence
Dr Andrew Wake
Dr Andrew Wake’s When You’re the Adult in the Room is a practical and thoughtful guide for educators managing the emotional and behavioural demands of modern classrooms. With over two decades of experience as a child and adolescent psychiatrist, Wake blends clinical insight with classroom realities to offer strategies that are both effective and grounded in empathy.
Rather than viewing behaviours such as defiance, withdrawal or emotional outbursts as disruptions to be managed, Wake invites educators to see them as expressions of unmet developmental needs. Drawing on fields like neuroscience, attachment theory, moral development and grief, he provides a deeper understanding of what might drive a young person's behaviour.
At the core of the book is the principle of “support when you can, save when you must.” This framework encourages teachers to offer connection and care while knowing when to step in with clarity and strength. It provides a balance that protects the learning environment and supports the individual student, without letting one come at the expense of the other.
Wake’s writing is accessible and warm, using relatable language, real examples and memorable metaphors. The book steers clear of jargon and offers practical ideas that busy professionals can immediately apply and reflect on. It is suitable for teachers, school leaders, pre-service educators and anyone who works with young people.
This is not just a book about behaviour. It is a reminder of the emotional and relational complexity of teaching, and an invitation to lead with both strength and kindness. When You’re the Adult in the Room will resonate with those who understand that education is not only about what we teach, but how we show up for the young people in our care.
